The Xylotex box uses the normal ground connections of the parallel port as the "com".
The jumper JP3 on the PMDX-422 should be set to the GND positition.
Isolation such as provide by the PMDX-103 should not be needed.
The plug-in configuration for the PMDX-422 SmartBOB should be set for step
signals on 2, 4, 6, and 8 while the direction signals are on 3, 5, 7, and 9.
[EDIT to fix typos]